We all deserve a medal

In my son’s football league there was no way to see how the team was doing. Why? We don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, especially the children’s. The most important thing is that they enjoy the game and that they don’t lose the desire to play football because they might end up in the last positions of the league. We must avoid disappointment at all costs because of course. We all deserve a medal for participation. Applause.

Not being prepared for inevitable pain

When you prepare for a marathon you suffer during training so that you suffer a little less in the race. Or at least that it doesn’t take you by surprise. What we are doing and allowing today is that it is easy to avoid pain. Electric bikes, for example. In some countries they already sell more than normal ones.

I have been having the same argument with whatsapp data my wife for months. She likes to do everything for our children. She protects them too much. I would like to see them go their own way from time to time even if it means making mistakes. They get a bad grade because they forgot to study, for example. They rely too much on their mother. The bad thing is that this means that in their world the responsibility of reminding them of things falls to their mother and not to themselves.

This will cause problems when they are adults. They will not know how to deal with complex situations. I don’t see them prepared to survive in the jungle called “life.” They are still young and we are still in time to make a change, but the moment will come when it is too late.

Positive feedback as methadone for dopamine

Do you feel guilty when your child is not happy? Do you feel bad when they shout at you, criticize you and are always dissatisfied? Put up with think about the number of tools it because when they are older they will thank you. You are doing them a poor favor by giving in because it makes you feel better. Can’t they have the daily dopamine boost from their cell phone because they have not lived up to your (reasonable) standards? Well, that’s how it is.

The world is unfair. Period

Is it a bad thing? Possibly. But it is also something immovable. You can’t change it. Instead of hiding it and embellishing it, you have to look for a confrontation with reality. Now we have the possibility of holding their hand, hugging them and putting ws data a band-aid on them if necessary. We can prepare them so that they know how to react the next time they face unpleasant situations. They have learned to handle the blow, how to feel and to move forward despite everything. It’s okay. It’s the process of growing up. It’s what they called (real) life.

What we all deserve is not a medal. It’s rather a well-given slap from time to time, like the ones your friends used to give you in class when you weren’t paying attention. Let’s see if we can wake up a little.